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What I'm up to....
Well, you may have noticed that I'm taking a break from escorting...details are here: http://www.sexy-curves.com/sexy01.html. I miss all my favorite gents though, and you all know who you are! I am still running all my porn sites and I just started a new bondage blog which is going to be lots of fun for those of you into the kinkier side of life. Check it out at http://www.xbdsm.com/blog/
I hope that everyone keeps in touch even though I'm not currently offering sessions... I'm still available to chat on AOL at sexycurves74! :)
Website: http://www.xxxtamara.com/diary/
 
How *not* to see me..
First, let me say that I consider each and every gentleman I spend time with to be a special individual worthy of my kindness, consideration, and a whole lot more. I have a great time during my sessions, and usually I know it's been a great session when *I* am left smiling. It's inevitable that if I have fun, the person I'm with is *probably* having fun as well.
However, I just want to say... there are a million ways to piss me off so that I refuse to see you at all. I think it's safe to say that most escorts these days have enough potential clients that they can pick and choose based on whatever factors make them comfortable. One of my factors is whether or not I like you in email. So, if you've emailed me once that day and then write back two hours later to say something like: "It would be nice if you write me back TODAY!", you might as well not bother, because I will not see you.
Y'see, it is after all in my best interests to make my sessions happen, and I do. What you need to do is go out and purchase a smidge of patience and allow me to do what I do so darned well. Sit back, relax, and enjoy. But be an email jerk to me, and you'll never get the opportunity, as I simply just won't see you. I dunno why this is so hard for people to understand!
For the record, I don't actually mind multiple emails, especially if it's been a few days and you haven't heard back from me. I do miss emails sometimes. But be courteous! Don't get snippy with me, or... well it's not like any big bad horrible thing will happen, I'm not trying to make threats, or anything like that. I just won't see you. You'll certainly live, and probably go on to have a lovely time with some other escort with whom hopefully you won't make that mistake. ;)
End rant! :)
Website: http://www.xxxtamara.com
The Virgin Whore....
I just got an email from a client who'd been arranging an appointment with me. He said he cannot *possibly* see me after having joined my porn site (xxxtamara.com) and seeing me there.
He was expecting the Virgin Mary?
I just think it's hilarious... here is this man who wants me to see him and fuck his brains out and fulfill his wildest sexual fantasies... but seeing me having all kinds of crazy sex and fulfilling *my own* sexual fantasies is just too much for him to handle. In which case, of course, why the hell did he join the site to begin with? I'm quite clear about what it is.
I AM a massively horny slut, that's why I am in this industry. Would he prefer a woman who hates sex doing this only to pay the bills and suffering through her sessions in silence?
Well, I suppose he would.
These guys never do cease to amaze me!
Website: http://www.sexy-curves.com
Clockwatcher....
Around about my second year in the 'biz, I did an experiment. I decided to just NOT SAY A WORD to two clients I was seeing, both of whom were... shall we say, "experienced hobbyists." Meaning that they were both board posters, reviewers, who ostensibly knew the etiquette of such a situation.
The first stayed an hour over. Not chatting. Getting every minutes worth, so to speak. He gave me a $20 tip. (Worse than nothing, IMO!) The second stayed 40 minutes over... again, not chatting time!... he left me nothing extra at all.
Neither of these guys saw a thing wrong with it. To them it's the same thing as going to the grocery store and having them give you a free gallon of milk, buy one get one free. Except we are human beings, not giant corporations, and they don't seem to get the difference.
As Ciara said, there are exceptions to every rule. But for me, I like to establish and keep boundaries, and that includes being a clockwatcher in the sense that I try to keep to my schedule. As it stands I have a life, I can't just loll around in bed all day with you guys anyways, much though I might like to sometimes. Usually I really do have to BE somewhere and I'm not flexible on times for my sessions.
One more thing I will add, is that for me, I've found that sticking to my boundaries (time is only one of them) helps to keep things in context and prevents people from misinterpreting things. I try to create a sense of immediate intimacy, and it is not fake by any means... but it IS limited and in a very specific context. Doing this allows me to GIVE and GIVE and GIVE of myself... and still have those boundaries which keep me safe.
I am a giver and a pleaser and I love it, and I'll do what I need to do to enable myself to do that better and better, regardless of whether it's popular to say so on the boards. I'm just me!
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